Albeit, a different kind of grief. For the average person, the loss of a parent is a loss of memories. For the victim of abuse, it is the loss of hope. For the loving family, there is a desire and expectation of making even more happy memories in the future with that loved one who is now gone. For the survivor, the death of their abuser is a final loss of hope that there will ever be the creation of happy xxvoyeur.xyzted Reading Time: 6 mins. Once an adult survivor awakens to the truth, he will, through therapy and prayer, come to see the truth of who his parents are. And this realization, the unmasking of abusers, is shocking and hard. The adult child may have seen his father as “strong, loving, doing what needs to be done” and excused aberrant behavior out of a filial xxvoyeur.xyzted Reading Time: 6 mins.
Complicated Grief: Grieving the Loss of Your Perpetrator Not only do you grieve the loss of the abuser's life, but often grieve the loss of hope for the relationship to be something different or for the abuser to take responsibility for the abuse and ask for xxvoyeur.xyzted Reading Time: 4 mins. Without anger to sustain them they may begin to feel the grief of their abuse. So the loss of the object of the anger leads to feeling the more intense emotional pain associated with the abuse. This grief is more indirectly related to the loss of the abuser because it is more about the losses caused by the abuse itself.
Our parents live on in the way we honor their impact on our lives, traditions, and family rituals. For some adult orphans, the transition may mean the loss of a family home, mementos, and other Estimated Reading Time: 6 mins.